For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

  • Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    4 hours ago

    This one of those topics where you will only get one side because the options are very very strong and anyone voice that deviates from a “no” will be silenced and they know it so they just won’t participate here.

    • Dale@lemmy.worldOP
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      4 hours ago

      That’s a fair point but I’m not accepting votes at this time anyway. What I was really looking for were personal experiences to reassure me that my son wouldn’t hate me or feel insecure if he were not circumcised and in at least a few cases that’s what I got.