For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.
On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.
From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.
Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!
I’m circumcised, but I can give the answer to if I wish I were uncircumcised. I would only want to choose circumcision if I looked into it and determined it to be good.
There’s someone whose name I forgot who called this out as being barbarism at Harvard or Columbia before getting kicked out for basically giving the truth on circumcision.
I’m circumcised and it has caused me so much mental anguish and pain. I’ve done the work of nurturing myself back to a mentally healthy place about it, but I beg you not to put another person in that position if you can avoid it.
No why would I want to mutilate my dick
Ok, so I’m a 38 year old uncircumcised Canadian male and on this issue, I have two opinions:
1.) Circumcision for moral, traditional, covenantial, or social cohesion reasons is child genital mutilation. Full stop, no second guesses…
2.) I have a larger-ish penis with a proportionally smaller frenulum and tighter foreskin. I am not bragging about size, I wish I was smaller because, when I get very aroused it can be quite painful. The foreskin frenulum pulls right against the tip of my penis and bends it down. If I were to excuse the frenulum and loosen my foreskin, I can imagine having sex when I am very erect would feel much better. This would be great because right now it feels like I’m trying to fuck with reigns on.
I have been exploring the idea of the loosening surgery, but obviously this is my choice, for aesthetic and pain management reasons.
The child has no choice, it’s abuse. I have a choice, it’s a medical procedure.
Nope, not even once. I find the idea of circumcision really bizarre.
Genital mutilation is a caveman practice…
I’m circumcised. My young adult sons are. Looking back, I would have made a different choice for them. I don’t have a super strong reason for feeling that way except that I don’t have a good reason to have done it other than “tradition”. But that’s a dumb reason to do things.
While it is still more common than not in the US, the rates have been falling for the last 10-15 years.
The rates are falling in America so you son probably won’t be the only kid with a foreskin. That said do remember there is a small chance of death from blood loss. No really that happens a few times a year.
I did as a kid because I was different from everyone else.
As an adult I’m so incredibly thankful that I didn’t suffer genital mutilation because of social pressure from people I couldn’t care less about.
I’m very happy being natural.
Not for a fucking second. Ever.
no
Love my penis, love my foreskin. All good.
They say they circumsize because they dont want to have to clean it or it smells. a little funk is okay. i hate the catholic pressure to snip. i wish they didnt obsess over keeping it cute and neat i wish i had the choice.
No. It’s child mutilation. Just. No.
I’m not a parent but I think in general unnecessary cosmetic surgery should be left up to the individual especially when it is related to genitals. I understand wanting to help them conform to norms to try to give them an easier life and there are some surgeries I think make sense like a cleft palate or an infant with burns, but if it’s not necessary you’re taking away their bodily autonomy and I think that’s a very important line morally. You need to determine if you think it’s necessary or unnecessary, and if the discomfort of a possible later in life surgery pushed it past the moral boundary or not.
