For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

  • Dale@lemmy.worldOP
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    8 hours ago

    That’s a fair point but I’m not accepting votes at this time anyway. What I was really looking for were personal experiences to reassure me that my son wouldn’t hate me or feel insecure if he were not circumcised and in at least a few cases that’s what I got.

    • Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      And that’s all you’ll get on this topic.

      Those who had bad experiences are not going to share that here. It’s not allowed.

      Notice how my comment is being downvoted. Dissent is not allowed. Bringing up the idea that dissent is not allowed, is not allowed.

      This topic attracts zealots.