Asking because I just sat through a family feud within earshot at a local coffee joint. Parents giving advice to son, who looked 30ish, all quite civil, full of the ‘can I speak for a minute’, ‘your minute is up’ and so on, with some ‘when we were your age’ and ‘you must/ will learn’ etc. Mum ended with ‘i don’t have to justify anything to you’.
My dad stopped once I got out of high school, but mum seems to chime in from time to time. I’m well into my middle age.
When should parents stop parenting and just let the kid fail/ thrive on their own? I just feel sometimes the parents are the problem, regardless of good intentions.
I‘m 30 and my parents give me unwanted advice all the time. I’m very rebellious about it since it never went away. And a lot of times when I listened to them it turned out to be bad.
They’re also constantly judging my financial decisions, despite them only having money saved due to recent inheritance.
Right? I feel the parents who don’t let go just create resentment and active rebellion against their unsolicited advice.
Don’t know anything about your situation but seeing it at face value for other readers… your parents giving advice on how to do something when they failed isn’t necessarily bad advice. We learn by our mistakes. Why not learn from theirs.