• argon@lemmy.today
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      2 days ago

      Do you use the term “realist” to mean “someone who focuses on arbitrary negative events to excuse their self-harming behavior of actively avoiding personal growth and progress”?

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        1 day ago

        I think they mean somebody who realizes about them self that their inability to reliably put food on the table is probably not looked favorably upon in terms of a partner. The reason for that can be purely environmental or psychological but mostly a bit of both.