The source is not being someone like you, that clearly doesn’t bang a lot of people - nothing wrong with that inherently, but yours sounds clearly hypothetically whereas mine is anecdotal - both just pissing in the wind, but at least my stream is aimed downwind and not spraying back into my face

Source: you made it the fuck up.

While I’m positive the situation you describe occurs, it is a rarity. Even when using sex toys with one partner you want to clean them after use, same way you would a dinner plate (especially funny given how many are dishwasher safe).

That being said, I do typically try to send sex toys along with previous partners, and only really dive into their use once a relationship gets more serious - if someone absolutely needs them to be satisfied sexually, they probably own their own.

To add, a lot of sites that “Fade into obscurity” still have active communities, they’re just not mainstream anymore.

Jesse what the fuck are you on about