Hey thats me! Wait a minute… Did lemmy just diagnose me again?
Is this honestly än ADHD only thing?
Nah, this happens to many, if not most, people.
adhd doesn’t have many adhd exclusive symptoms, most of them will occasionally happen to everyone
the key difference is - for folks with adhd they are chronic and lower the quality of life to a noticeable degree
Yeah, I häve this as well and I didn’t think I have ADHD.
I’ve gotten better at this! Tracking how long it takes me to go out for basic shopping runs, or to start up an online game for a session, etc. It sucks to surrender an entire day to one planned event with someone.
For me the problem is technicians who are arriving during some multi hour window of time.
When I try to make a conscious effort to fight it, a few things might happen…
I might miss my thing.
I might be late for my thing.
I actually got my alarm for my thing, but now I have to put down what I was working on and now it’s half finished and getting back to it is going to be even harder than starting on it.
I am so stressed and distracted by trying to stay on task for what I work on before my thing and that I can’t actually do anything else because the thought of the other possible scenarios happening weighs on my mind.
Hang on… Is this an ADHD thing? Damn.
It’s a common thing that happens to most people for a variety of reasons.
There are many reasons why people experience this. It’s most definitely not only tied to ADHD. I don’t have ADHD and I have the issue in the OP as well. It’s not because I’ll get distracted and miss it, it’s because I have anxiety that I will or simply about the thing itself. I can’t fully relax until all tasks for the day have been completed even if I am not immediately anxious about it. I think that’s a pretty common human experience and it doesn’t really make sense to pathologize it.
- for context…
I’m neuro divergent, I guess, but not ADHD. If anything I’m the opposite. I can focus of things incredibly well. I can prioritise and actuate tasks rather well.
However, you give me a dentist appointment at 2pm and I’m up at 7.30 with my coat on by 8, sat at my kitchen table until mid-day when I walk to the dentists and awkwardly stand outside for nearly an hour because that’s what I’m doing.
Yeah, I see things like this a lot and think “shit, do I have ADHD?”
I mean, the current guess is 10% of the population. Mostly speaking a lot of it is relatable because it is a common experience, they become signs of something more when it impacts your life and wellbeing on a regular basis.
Do you feel like you’re often anxious about missing appointments because if you don’t stress about it you will absolutely forget?
I suspect the percentage of people with ADHD is much higher on Lemmy than the general population.
What makes you think easily distracted people would be hanging out here, on the distraction machine? /s
I was more thinking of the fact that people here are mostly people who left reddit to try this new thing called Lemmy.
And I know a very specific type of person that is constantly trying new things.
Not exactly anxious or stressed, but I can’t make myself do anything - I can’t read a book or play a game or anything - because in the back of my mind I do have the thought that I’ll get too invested in it and suddenly realise it’s 5 minutes before a thing that I should have left half an hour ago for
I can’t my brain will make me forget to stop me from stressing.
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Right, just because you have symptoms doesn’t mean it’s a disorder for you. Many people learn to adjust to manage their lives once they are older.
I probably would have benefited from meds as a kid or when trying to go to college. Now, I wouldn’t change how things turned out at all, and I don’t feel like treatment would help.
Polled a few of my friends and 100% relate to this meme, so I sort of doubt it.
Not everyone who does it is ADHD, but a LOT of us that have ADHD do this.
It’s so hard to explain this to people too 😭 my entire existence just freezes until whatever is scheduled is finished. And then those times when people cancel last minute and the entire day was like this…
I hate those days so much
Sometimes I am the one that cancels. Time is still lost for me.
Or, you have a type…
It may be, but it can also come from having (for me) childhood experiences with parents who would absolutely lose their cool if appointments and other such scheduled activities were missed. I have this feeling and behavior pattern for things like work, hangouts with friends, and even casual events like a festival or faire, all in addition to the typical items like doctor’s appointments.
Wait, so is this quite a common thing?
This is why I choose to start early if I can at my job. Last job allowed me to start at 6am and leave at 3pm. It was great. I still had part of the afternoon to do grocery shopping and stuff before everyone was out from their 9-5 jobs. And I always had some sunshine after work during winter months. And the office was quiet. Some of my most productive time was that 80-90m before the next person arrived.
Current job starts at 8am. I’ve got better at enjoying the time before work because I can walk there in 10m. If I had to drive and deal with traffic, I’d be this meme, watching the clock and feeling anxious.
Then there’s the 12 hour shifts.
“Well, this day is shot. Better go home and get ready for the next one”
The reduced number of work days is really nice, however.
Until the number of work days is no longer reduced… At least that means good money ig
I didn’t want to get involved in another thing and potentially get set back.
Get out of my head Charles
I muttered this exact phrase today out of the blue, and now here it is.
