For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

  • idiomaddict@lemmy.world
    51·
    1 day ago

    Women prefer it if that’s all they know/if their uncircumcised partners aren’t very hygienic. I’m an American woman and grew up thinking uncircumcised penises were gross, but they feel better inside me and it’s way more fun to give a clean, uncircumcised penis a blowjob. It’s more obvious and unpleasant when an uncircumcised penis is dirty though.

    I was recently a bridesmaid for one of my friends from high school, and we talked about circumcision- all the friends I had growing up who were also grossed out by uncut penises who have actually had sex with a person with one agreed that they prefer them. It’s not something I would hold against a partner or anything (and my husband had phimosis, so he got a partial circumcision in his teens), but penises are naturally well formed for the purpose of enjoyable sex.

    • ikt@aussie.zone
      22·
      24 hours ago

      true but it’s pretty clear cut 😁 women overall prefer cut vs non cut

      Database searches identified 29 publications with original data for inclusion, including 22 for aim (i) and 4 of these and 7 others pertaining to aim (ii). In the overwhelming majority of studies, women expressed a preference for the circumcised penis. The main reasons given for this preference were better appearance, better hygiene, reduced risk of infection, and enhanced sexual activity, including vaginal intercourse, manual stimulation, and fellatio. In studies that assessed mothers’ preference for MC of sons, health, disease prevention, and hygiene were cited as major reasons for this preference. Cultural differences in preference were evident among some of the studies examined. Nevertheless, a preference for a circumcised penis was seen in most populations regardless of the frequency of MC in the study setting.

      https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6523040/

      • idiomaddict@lemmy.world
        1·
        5 hours ago

        I got curious, so I looked into this a little. I cross-referenced this for circumcision rates, and Wikipedia for HIV rates.

        Cultural differences in preference were evident among some of the studies examined. Nevertheless, a preference for a circumcised penis was seen in most populations regardless of the frequency of MC in the study setting.

        They say that, but every one of those studies falls into one of three categories: the women polled come from a place where more than half the population is circumcised; they come from a place with lower than 50% circumcision rates and prefer uncircumcised penises; or they come from a place with lower than 50% circumcision rates and elevated HIV risk (which might affect women’s preferences).