Asking because I just sat through a family feud within earshot at a local coffee joint. Parents giving advice to son, who looked 30ish, all quite civil, full of the ‘can I speak for a minute’, ‘your minute is up’ and so on, with some ‘when we were your age’ and ‘you must/ will learn’ etc. Mum ended with ‘i don’t have to justify anything to you’.

My dad stopped once I got out of high school, but mum seems to chime in from time to time. I’m well into my middle age.

When should parents stop parenting and just let the kid fail/ thrive on their own? I just feel sometimes the parents are the problem, regardless of good intentions.

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    Realistically they never stop, but if you have a working relationship with them, you and you parents will find a way to keep the parenting at a mostly helpful level.

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      Omg yes! Ths thing about my dad is that he was always ‘reach-able’, as in no matter what, you could always sit him down and he’d always hear you out, regardless of whether he agreed with you. I miss him :(