Its meant as a broad question as i would like some diverse input.
I have an “unfit” and rigid ruleset of how i define friends and how someone can be one.
It roots in my insecurities and want a starting point to redefine it in a healtier way.

  • BougieBirdie@piefed.blahaj.zone
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    To hang out together intentionally, outside of work, more than once. If you no longer ever want to hang out, they’re probably not friends anymore.

    I have a few coworkers I’m tempted to call friends. At the very least, we’re friendly. But I also know that once either of us leave the job, we probably won’t see each other anymore.

    In a more general sense, I call a lot of people “friend” without necessarily considering us friends. Mostly strangers and customers, and it’s meant in a disarming way, like “Sorry friend, we’re sold out.”

    I’m friendly with most people, but then to consider someone a friend feels like taking the relationship to a new level.