• glimse@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    Feels like this was made by someone who has never experienced - or even seen someone experiencing - grief?

    I lost a friend years ago and at the funeral his father came up to me almost jovially. We talked and laughed and hugged. 10 minutes later he was bawling in the corner. 10 minutes after that he was back to laughing…

    The Kirk and Vance families were friends before this. IMO there’s nothing weird about this photo

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      I am not a stranger to grief and know all too well the various stages and unexpected ways it can manifest. I am still dealing with it.

      Now that said, I had a very hard time seeing anything on display at Kirk’s hasty “memorial” that looked like normal, real grief, even in it’s more unusual forms. I saw a lot of performance, a lot of “this is how grief should look” displays that seem derived from television and media, and the whole thing had a narrative flow that seemed quite unnatural.

      I think a lot of it was forced. I’m sure Kirk’s family was devastated in their own way, and I doubt his wife was involved in his death, despite a lot of really weird circumstances piling up that feel exactly like the setup to a 48 Hours murder documentary, but largely it was a commercial and political event. Whatever her and Vance share it’s far more likely to be political ambition than anything else.

      Kirk’s wife has had her own political motivations from early on, I fully expect to see her capitalizing on his death even if she actually is mourning, but that mourning will be carefully curated and practiced for cameras, and even she knows better than to make it look like she’s making moves on Vance.

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        I agree that they’re capitalizing on the murder, I’m just saying it’s wild to claim she’s not mourning because she showed up to work.

        Posts like this say nothing and add nothing except negativity to the world but people just gobble it up. Brainless hivemind behavior

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      I dunno.

      I thought it was pretty weird that, a few days after her husband had a hole put through his neck, she was on-stage at a rally being blatantly used as a prop by a convicted felon and adjudicated rapist.

      That didn’t seem like a normal stage of grief at all to me.

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      Dawg, I buried my only parent at 15 and was accused by her siblings of not being sad because they hadn’t seen me cry- this isn’t the ‘back and forth’ as she’s been actively grifting off of his death since it happened. The ONLY person who’s shown any real humanity over his death was Owens.

      Also, Devil’s advocate for Nazis is an icky look, especially ones that are grifting so hard off of the death you’re playing advocate for. 🤷🏽‍♂️

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        Dawg, your meme is about her being “too friendly” for hugging Vance. Bringing up grifting is moving the goalposts

        Making shitty political memes with an obnoxious typeface and no citations is an icky look, especially when it’s coming from my side of the aisle. 🤷

        Are you making a mountain out of a mole hill for those sweet internet points or are you trying to get a job at The Daily Beast?

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          I’m not the one that tried to get people fired for not trying to fake-grieve properly. I’m a shit poster online trying not to go coo-coo bananas with the constant, in-your-face hypocrisy all around us.

          This is what a ‘mountain of a mole hill’ looks like -

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            “But they’re worse than me! I’m just a shitposter” is such an awful defense. Great example of how meme culture is a cancer, though. The internet definitely needs more angry-about-nothing text over images