For me, it is always when someone asks me a question which answer could easily have been retrieved through their phone online. You’re meaning to tell me, that what you have in your pocket, is not some form of gateway to information that can answer anything you’re curious about at just about anywhere?
So you go and bother me instead, whom for all I care, could just lie to you or to be honest, admit that I don’t know everything. Because that’s what your god damn phone is for now and has been for a while now. Go use it, stop nagging me, I know when to use it when I want to know something, I don’t go around bugging people and asking stupid questions.
Seeing dog shit on the ground 2 feet from a disposal bin with baggies specifically for it.
I like discussing things with people and that includes asking questions they may know that I currently do not. Im not looking to only interact with machines and pretty much all possible information is available online. I also don’t like and don’t keep a smartphone on me. Anyway my thing I find inexcusable is the state of my country and the people enabling it (specifically people who went to work for ice this year)
Good to see the great art of conversation is still with us.
Maybe they just want to interact with you? Believe it or not, people ask each other questions, even things they could easily look up online because they want your take and opinion and crucially they want to talk to you. But given your response, God knows why.
I actually get mildly irritated when people do that. If we’re just chatting and I start wondering aloud about some trivial event or person, and the other person immediately pulls out their phone to Google it, I find it a bit annoying. It’s almost never anything that important. Let’s at least dig into our memories for a bit and bounce around guesses before looking it up. I’m just chatting - no need to “call a friend” to find out which movie had Denzel Washington in it.
I agree here. Also we all know people put fud on the internet. lets establish what we know and how well we know it before feeding from that particular trough. I mean many things come from schooling but it comes down to what we can recollect or maybe we have had a few experiences that expound on it.
Locally they found card skimmers at dollar stores.
You’re stealing from people who can least afford to be stolen from.
That’s a new low, really.
Dollar stores are honestly, the last thing we should be fucking with as well as not to fuck with thrift stores. If or when we lose those, I’m for vigilante justice against card skimmers.
It really is bottom of the barrel behavior. I really want karma to be real in cases like this.
There is not much I find inexcusable. Really not much. And it also depends the age of the person. I don’t have the same expectations with kids (they’re in the process of learning to be who they will be as adults, and to behave properly so it’s to be expected they will screw up more or less seriously) and with adults.
I would say, for adults, I’m quite sad when I see people refusing to inform themselves, only relying on hearsay and slogans, instead of reading books (plural). It makes me sad for them but I will not go blame them. They’re adults, they’re supposed to be grown-ups that know what they are doing, and are responsible of their life choices and decisions… like I am of my own, no matter how stupid.
For me, it is always when someone asks me a question which answer could easily have been retrieved through their phone online. You’re meaning to tell me, that what you have in your pocket, is not some form of gateway to information that can answer anything you’re curious about at just about anywhere?
I probably will never ask you anything (age gap, distance and the lack of opportunity to cross paths, so nothing personal here don’t get me wrong ;) but I don’t use my phone for anything personal and/or for anything I still have the choice not to use it. Meaning that I don’t use for social media, games, email, Netflix, music, stuff like that, and that I also don’t use it to search for info online. I only have a phone because I’m expected to have one, that is all. It was not like that when I first purchased one (it was the back then brand new first iPhone and the few models following, I was really excited with them) but a few years later, the day I realized the privacy nightmare smartphones were, I stopped using mine for anything personal. Completely.
So you go and bother me instead,
Sorry to know that trying to have a discussion with you bothers you.
Personally, I much prefer to ask questions to people than use a search engine. Even for asking directions when I lost my way when I’m in some new place I don’t know. Often times, starting a conversation, even just by saying ‘hi’, is an opportunity to get to know one another. Not always, that’s fine too.
admit that I don’t know everything.
Knowing everything is never expected, hopefully.
When I’m asked something I can’t answer I just tell that. ‘Sorry I don’t know’ or ‘I couldn’t tell’, with a smile, and then I will see if I can still help the person in any way. If only by referring them to someone else or suggesting they go ask some place where I think they would be able to help them. Or I will just apologize for not being able to help at all.
I met my first real love, and it was a passionate love story, the first (of two) person I was pretty sure I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, because she had questions about a book.
I was in the book shop of a girl friend of mine (much older than me, at that time) and this young lady was asking her questions about a book I was quite familiar with. My friend directed her to me with a smile, telling her I may be able to answer some of her questions. It was awkward (i’m shy and she was the prettiest girl I could imagine) but she was not shy and she wanted answers. So, we started chatting and we ended up getting a coffee deciding to meet again very soon. And we did. She was an incredibly wonderful and smart person, she changed my life in ways I could not ever tell. But we would have never met had she asked Google (or AI, to be more in tune with our times) instead of asking her questions to that librarian friend of mine. That would have been so sad, wouldn’t you agree?
Edit: typos & clarifications.
Being a dick to other people for no good reason. That also covers racism, sexism etc.
People being cruel to animals. Not just pets, but also for example intentionally squishing harmless bugs.
As for your example, I actually sometimes appreciate it when for example my niece asks me something for her schoolwork instead of just googling it. I think there is value in getting answers from a Human instead of a machine. But sure, in other instances it can be annoying, though hardly inexcusable for me.
I really dislike when somebody reaches out to another person for help only to be pushed away.
Surely they asked you because they respect your opinion, or think you’re a good resource, and you just throw it back in their faces like the entitled little cunt you are.
I was going to say rudeness. It costs nothing to be polite.
Fascists and wealth hoarders.
I disagree with your inexcusable behavior, as I really don’t mind saying “I don’t know” or just answering the question.
For me, littering is inexcusable: just find a trash can, or carry your trash with you until you find a trash can to put it in. Don’t throw trash on the ground…!
Also inexcusable: saying “it’s nothing” when I said I couldn’t hear your for the 2nd time. Like, if I ask you to repeat yourself, I am interested and just so happened to not hear you (maybe we’re in a noisy place, or you were facing away when speaking). If I didn’t want to listen I would’ve either said so, or just ignored you.
Littering. It’s one of the few behaviors I simply have no theory of mind for. Nobody wants to see themselves as a bad person, so we all have stories that justify our actions - but I honestly can’t imagine what story someone tells themselves to excuse throwing trash on the ground. Even with extreme or violent ideologies, I can still picture how a person might end up there, and I can imagine that, under the right circumstances, I could too. But littering just completely baffles me.
If it’s something small like a cigarette butt, or even something larger that someone buries thinking no one will ever find it - fine, whatever. But when I see food wrappers or other garbage just lying there, especially out in nature, I’m genuinely dumbfounded.
Not to justify littering in the slightest (it’s gross and I don’t do it) but I think I can give you an insight in some of the thinking. Because in my own home, I frequently and unthinkingly ‘litter’ even though it annoys me! I open an envelope and read the letter, unconsciously dropping the envelope on the floor. I constantly find empty food packaging in weird places because as soon as I’m done with it I just drop it.
Fortunately I don’t do this in public because I’m always more aware of my actions when I’m out of my own space. But within my home, if I’m doing something while focusing on something else I’m prone to abandoning things carelessly, and when I find them latter I’ll be mad at having to tidy up after myself. So, maybe some folks are like that in public? Also, some folks consciously and shamelessly litter, and there’s really no excuse.
So… Do a lot of people do this? I can’t imagine just letting things drop willy nilly that I am handling. I place the envelop on a table and after reading will either dispose of it all, put the letter back in the envelope and place it somewhere specific, put the letter somewhere specific and dispose of the envelope.
I don’t think it’s very common, partners and flatmates have definitely (and understandably) been frustrated. When I was younger and used to smoke, my friends would be horrified that I wouldn’t tap ash into the an ashtray, but just into the floor or couch I was sitting on. It wasn’t intentional, I don’t like getting ash over myself (or having to pick up envelopes, or find socks scattered over the house) but if I was occupied by a conversation or even just thinking about something, it would happen without my noticing.
But to be fair, I have adhd, so I’ve got a bunch of issues around attention and impulse control. It’s a tiresome habit, and I’m definitely not condoning it. I’m just so glad that I don’t act like that outside my home. There I’m just normal levels of thoughtless, like forgetting to use coasters.
Cigarette butts are some of the most toxic litter disposed of by people and if they’re filtered, contain a fiberglass sponge that leaches out toxins into the soil for hundreds of years after disposal.
But it’s not inexcusable to me, because someone doing that might genuinely not think it’s a big deal - cigarette butts are small, easy to overlook. It is a big deal, of course, but I can at least imagine what goes through their mind when they do it, or rather, what doesn’t. They’re could just be oblivious to it.
That’s not the case with something bigger, though. Nobody with half a brain thinks a plastic food wrapper just disappears into nature or that no one will notice it. They have to know they’re being inconsiderate jerk when they do it - yet I don’t think they would do it if they did, and that’s what makes it so baffling to me. It’s like hitting yourself - why would you do that?
