I play DnD with some of my close friends. We also try to get together at one of our houses every once in a while to do “arts and crafts” stuff. Paint figurines, carve pumpkins, gingerbread houses, painting shitty paintings with bob ross. Sometimes we have “scary movie night”, or watch over the garden wall, or a new anime that came out something. Sometimes we’ll go out to do things too, the Zoo, or museums, or a haunted house, or coen maze this time of year. We started doing this after COVID. It seems kinda silly, but having a good excuse to get, like, a half a dozen or so friends together and hang out IRL is honestly great. Sometimes i don’t wanna get up on a Saturday to do it, but I’m always glad I did. It’s hard to come up with excuses to do things in person that aren’t prohibitively expensive, nor infrequent.

40, roughly weekly with high variation (sometimes not for over a month sometimes five in a week)

Amazing to see that some people think virtual counts as seeing your friends more than rounds-to-0%

Online pretty much all the time, in real life twice a week, at choir and at band practice. More when there are concerts.

Becausebof various political shit happening around the world, my main friendship is gone

36, less than once per month

Depends on the group.

I go climbing with same group at least once a week.

Then I have my big circle of vegan friends, where we try to see each order at least once a month but that can happen more often sometimes.

Then there’s my classic circle of friends I’ve been friends with forever and the same for that, usually once a month.

So even if you disregard my weekly climbing I usually see at least one group of friends every other week but sometimes every week.

Edit: 31 by the way

Pretty often since I’ve got a large friends group who are the “lets go to x gig/party” type

Virtually at least once a week.

In person, about once a month.

I know I have friends, but they’re all technically my wife’s friends and their husbands. We probably socialize once or twice a month, depending on schedules. I love them all, but I have no friends that I socialize with 1:1. It’s always a group event. So in a way it feels like I have no friends.

The one friend that is truly and originally my friend, since middle school, I’ll see maybe once a month if I’m lucky and it’s usually a framily event with our wives and kids. And the time and distance apart feels wider than ever as we’ve gotten older.

Socializing at 40 is… different, and oddly lonely.

i think everyone on this thread should say their approximate location, then DM anyone on your area to see if you’re closer enough to be IRL friends.

I’m in South West Michigan area.

Feels like less than once a month. I don’t have a routine of hanging out with friends. I’m not even sure who considers me their friend. Everyone lives far away and I blame car culture for that.

All my friendships basically dried up and fizzled away by 25. Old friends from school got married, went down different paths than I did, etc.

I’m 38 now and I still occasionally talk to a couple of friends every few months or so (one from middle school and one from high school), but it never goes beyond casual conversation. I haven’t gone out with anyone besides the girlfriend in over a decade.

At the moment almost every weekend in person, though on average it’s more like every 2 weeks I think. It used to be way more but after finishing my study it became insanely hard to meet new people like myself. I also game with friends more than half of the days in the evenings tho, so that’s nice.

The main loss since finishing my study is the regularity and spontaneity of meeting with friends. It requires careful alignment of agenda’s and planning ahead for over a month to get something done. I hate planning, but the downside of making friends who are like me is that most of my friends also hate doing so. So sometimes I have to push a bit to get stuff planned. Previously we’d naturally run into eachother and just decide to grab a beer that evening or watch a movie or something.

I’d also live to make more queer friends where I’m at but every group seems to be for students or elderly or something.

Virtually nearly every night I see a friend or two, sometimes I’ll go a week or so without doing this. On the weekends, I virtually see 2-5 of my friends probably 2 a month for the bigger group and 6 or so times for the smaller group (so 6 total gatherings, 2 of which a larger group shows up). Every other weekend I meet in person with a group of 4-5 nearly religiously, to play TTRPGs. Probably once a month I hangout on a Friday with friends from work at like a pub or a beer garden or a pizza place. Once a month (sometimes more) I’ll meet with friends on the week days for dinner or a movie.

All things considered I feel pretty fortunate to have very virtual hobbies so I can meet with people about as much as I want nearly whenever I want to. Still working on getting more friends in my time zone that play the same games as me (I’m a recent immigrant to Germany, most of my gamer friends are still in the US, arc raiders is coming up feel free to PM me if you’re in the EU timezones lol). I’m also fortunate to have made a lot of quick friends at local nerd/queer spaces and am an eternal GM when RPGs are in their golden era. It was/is not hard to find a table of people interested if you fish for a bit in my experience. Honestly I’d like to be doing more in person stuff but my flat isnt fully ready for hosting but when that happens I’ll be adding a monthly board game night and a seasonal party to the mix!

Hope this helps, for what it’s worth.

33 at this point. I get a decent amount of socializing with my coworkers to where I don’t feel a “need” to socialize. I’m a fairly chatty person, so that may be a result of who I am personally wise.

With that being said, these are strictly coworkers and not “friends”. I would consider them more positive than a stranger by far, most experiences are warm and positive but not a “friend”. Oddly enough despite my ability to socialize well, most of my friends drifted off to do their thing after highschool, so I barely see any of them.

I can see this as detrimental to some folks but I haven’t really been affected… Yet. I can’t rule out the potential problems in the future. I spend time with some of my remaining friends I’m in contact with, it’s mostly just posting memes laughing and shit talking.

I’d say 1 or 2 times a week. Sometimes a lot more, sometimes a little less.

That said… My closest friends, the ones that I share the most common interests and hobbies with… I barely see at all. I try to coordinate to see them monthly, but sometimes it’s less. One has kids, the other has health problems.

The friends I hang out with the most, we have less in common, but we all get along well, and have some core interests and hobbies in common that I don’t actually have in common with my closest friends.

The two groups of friends are cordial with each other, but neither of them are as close with each other as I am with them separately. It’s interesting. I guess I have a diverse set of hobbies and friends.

I have other friends mixed in there too that I only see sporadically, that don’t belong to either group. I struggle to make time for them every few months, usually at least a couple times a year, even though we live close by.

I’m glad I have friends, and it’s good to be active and social. But I’m also a bit of an introvert, so some weeks I really just wanna stay home alone and veg. Many nights I do. But most times, if I get an invite to go do something/hang out, I take it. I’m really bad at planning things or inviting people over though, ironically. So I feel like I’ve lost friends over the years from not reaching out enough.