I’ve pretty much hit rock bottom and come to the conclusion that I can’t stay on my current trajectory. It’s already cost me one, if not two, relationships, and I’m tired of dating on hard mode. I’m worried I might be too far gone, so it would be immensely helpful to hear from someone who’s been in the same place and managed to turn things around.
I can manage a week or two with the power of self loathing but once the urges come back I’m really, and I mean really good at coming up with excuses.
As people have said you need to change from a negative reason of self-loathing to the positives. Performing better in bed, sleeping better, just generally being less depressed, removing unrealistic expectations in bed, not contributing to exploitation are just some of the benefits.
Just set it as a challenge to yourself to go a month without (how nnn started) and set your own punishment and reward (not porn or sex related) for success or failure. On success (or failure), try again.