I’ve pretty much hit rock bottom and come to the conclusion that I can’t stay on my current trajectory. It’s already cost me one, if not two, relationships, and I’m tired of dating on hard mode. I’m worried I might be too far gone, so it would be immensely helpful to hear from someone who’s been in the same place and managed to turn things around.

I can manage a week or two with the power of self loathing but once the urges come back I’m really, and I mean really good at coming up with excuses.

  • e̶t̶t̶y̶b̶l̶a̶t̶a̶n̶t̶@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    I don’t have this relationship with porn but have been addicted to other things. I have found some success in this method:

    I tell myself “ok, I can do bad habit in three hours, and I promise myself I won’t feel bad if I do.” and then in three hours, if I can, I just tell myself the same thing over again, and put it off for three more hours. If I buckle, I don’t kick the shit out of myself, and I’ve found that I can make it a whole day if I bargain with myself based on time. If I’m going to do bad habit in three hours, I can think about other things until the three hours is up. And no matter what, setting a small goal (just three measly hours, what’s that to me if I can do bad habit as much as I want when it’s done?) and accomplishing it gives me a different form of reward.

    Idk, it doesn’t always work, but when I was trying to fast for health/personal care it really helped me not eat until my “shift” was up.

    It doesn’t have to be three hours, it could be 30 minutes, or “when I’m done doing other activity” or something similar. Small goals that are possible to attain.