My wife and I are about 3 weeks from closing on our first house and I am losing my god damn mind. All of our finances/budget work out while still having savings for emergency repairs, our inspection went well after having to back out on the first we offered on (tree fell on the house after offer was accepted, thought we could fix but it was a wash) and we really like the area and first impressions of our neighbors.

I know buying a house is a top “most stressful thing” an average person can go through, but this is a lot harder than I thought and I didn’t downplay it in my head. I am guessing I will feel like this for the first year or two and progressively it will become normal right? We have a lot of support from our families (financially, emotionally and labor/handypeople) so I am still optimistic about the whole thing, but my appetite is non existent and insomnia seems to be working in overdrive.

  • Signtist@bookwormstory.socialEnglish
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    3 days ago

    If your first house is anything like mine was, it’ll be a lot of “What’s that sound!? God dammit…” followed by either a day’s worth of work fixing something, or a bill for several hundred dollars. It took a few major problems before my wife and I started getting confident that we knew what we were doing. You get used to it, and eventually problems that arise are no longer a “will we get through this?” and instead become an “ugh, I can’t wait until we’re through this.” After a few years I was able to sell it to someone else as their starter home, and use the equity I built to buy a much nicer house with far fewer problems, though you’ll never be totally free from the occasional sudden panic of a major issue.

    • humble_boatsman@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      27·
      2 days ago

      a bill for several hundred dollars

      After a few years I was able to sell it to someone else as their starter home, and use the equity I built

      What boomer bullshit is this. Its 2025 you have got to be dreaming.

      • Signtist@bookwormstory.socialEnglish
        6·
        2 days ago

        Huh? I bought my first house in 2020. It was $200,000 for a run-down house in a bad part of Minneapolis. It was my first home, so I could use the first-time home buyer benefit to only need $10,000 for the down payment, which I had built up over a few years of saving. While in the house, fixing my garage door when it broke was $250, and repairing my AC and Furnace each time they broke was $300-500. Stuff that was bigger than that was covered by insurance. I fixed everything else myself, however poorly. The money I got for selling the house in 2023 for $230,000 was enough to afford the down payment on the next place after paying back my first mortgage and the realtor fees.