Or, just maybe, they could adequately staff their stores instead of constantly running skeleton crews. If they were actually sincere with their cries of high theft, more employees on the floor could deter would-be thieves, while also giving them time to help customers when needed and pack out product so the place doesn’t always look like an obstacle course left in the wake of a hurricane, with piles of stuff on the floor blocking half the aisles.

Any place that requires an app for me to shop at is a hard no for me, much less all the other nonsense they want to include.

Basically, as soon as other reliable methods became widely adopted. No, I don’t have any phone call related anxiety or whatever, I’ll call someone if I really need to, I would just rather not. I’d much rather get a text that says, “Hey, we’re meeting up at 7pm to go out and do, XYZ, do you want to come?” than a phone call that starts with that and turns to “So anyway, did I tell you my mom blah, blah, blah… And I don’t know what to say, because I kind of want to go, but it would be a lot blah, blah, blah.”

Phone calls with friends and family have a way of spiraling off into tangents when I don’t necessarily have the time to entertain them, but don’t want to be a dick all the time telling people I don’t have time at the moment to listen to them. If there’s a self-service section to a company’s website or app, I can usually do whatever I need faster than it would take me to get through the automated menus and hold music to call and have them do it. Like my pharmacy, if I want to refill a prescription online, I log in, check a box and hit submit. Done. If I call them, I need to go through three menus to get patched through to the pharmacy, tell them what I want, hold for a moment while they help someone in the store, give them my info and wait for them to look it up, etc.

When I plan to meet up with people, I make plenty of time to talk to them and listen to whatever. When I get what I think is going to be a short phone call that devolves into tangents, I don’t necessarily have the time to entertain whether the fact that my friend’s cousin had his toe amputated due to gangrene means he should get the spot on his nipple tested for leprosy, or if he should just improve his personal hygiene and see if it washes off in the shower.

If something really is going to be a pain to communicate via text, schedule that conversation and we can have a call to discuss it, but I’m not answering phone calls whenever somebody calls out of the blue unless I’m interviewing for jobs or expecting a call about some sort of emergency.

Not just that, but you’ll also experience a good deal of social pressure from your friends and family, or future co-workers. Some can be of the patently ridiculous variety, like “Oh, that’s a man’s job, why would you want to try and do that?” but you also get some that can be well-meaning and grounded somewhat in reality, like the potential risk for violence and/or sexual violence that a female cab driver would be perceived as more exposed to. These can be mitigated to an extent, if you find the right niche to go into. For example, I would think the risk for violence would be lower if you were just doing airport runs, or medical transport for the elderly, rather than being the late night driver picking people up from clubs and bars to bring them to their private residences.

For a job that has an old boy’s club formed, a new, female employee can also often expect to have to deal with regular harassment, whether it’s old-fashioned, paternalistic sexism, or active efforts to drive away women that the men working there view as encroaching on their private domain. I’m not excusing this behavior or saying it’s something women should put up with, but that is the simple reality of many career fields society views as “men’s work,” and knowing this in advance will often discourage women from even trying to get a job in these fields, absent credible signs that the company they’re considering is making substantial and concrete efforts to change this culture and make the work place not be misogynistic, or some other pressing urge (i.e. “I can’t get a job somewhere else where I live that will pay my bills and avoid homelessness and starvation, so I guess I’ll put up with the harassment and misogyny until I can move elsewhere or something better opens up.”) that means they’re willing to overlook it. Rather perversely, the men who see women leave the job in short order due to the men’s behavior, rather than the actual work or work-related conditions, often take it as confirmation that women aren’t cut out for that line of work. Meanwhile, those women who persevere, but don’t take shit from their male coworkers and dare to make them actually face consequences for their own words and actions will frequently be maligned as “bitches” and socially isolated at work.

It’s hardly surprising women don’t actively seek out to subject themselves to such conditions on a regular basis, absent some external influence that either seeks to ameliorate the hostile environment they face, or else compels them to tolerate it as the least terrible option available.