• boonhet@sopuli.xyz
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    1 day ago

    Expensive (in terms of my country, anyway) car got me the worst woman I’ve ever dated (and later married. The things you do for love. For both the gold digger and more importantly, the child the gold digger coaxes you into having). Go back a few comments in my profile if you want details because I shared them with other people who said they’ve suffered under narcissists too, but it cost me well over 100k in under 2 years. Minimum wage in my country is under 900 euros a month to give you some perspective. She did not work a day in the same time frame, but I worked 200+ hours most months.

    Stay true to yourself and keep driving that hybrid. Don’t give in to it. The woman that’s out there for you won’t care about it. But if you drive a nice car or truck, you’ll attract gold diggers that distract you from the actually good things in life. And if my advice sounds misogynous, it’s really not. It’s not exclusively women who are gold diggers of course. I recently read a thread on my country’s subreddit where a woman was in just about the same situation I used to be in, looking for advice. Her husband was an absolute freeloader and wouldn’t even help around the house because she wouldn’t sign over half the house to him. House that she’d bought before their relationship.

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      i’ve never met a woman who didn’t shit on me for my lifestyle choices. especially if that are positive.

      all my girlfriends i dated just wanted the standard american lifestyle. And every woman i meet who wants to date me wants that too.

      I dont’ know where anyone is finding women that admire people who drive hybrid cars or compost. i certainly do not ever meet them.

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        I’ve met a few. One in particular cared more about the environment than anything I could offer her.

        Unfortunately we were both busy and barely saw each other. I then went and met someone who only liked me for the car I drove. First girl was last year MD student, the other one was pretty much a bum who gets pregnant when she finds a man who can provide for her, to lock it down.

        I didn’t have the nice car for the first one. She actually liked talking to me without me having to pretend I was someone I wasn’t.

        So I’m still sure that even for you there’s someone out there. But the sad fact is that we many never meet these people or other circumstances can fuck things up for us.