The idea that anyone “grows up” at all is a fallacy we’ve all bought into because of victorian-age ideas of culture and etiquette.
Nobody moves out of childhood. We just add more and more layers around it, increasing the complexity of childhood. You have the same brain you’ve always had buried in there, it just has continued to expand and branch out, but at the core, your “inner child” is still the one feeling all the feelings, still reacting the same way to new things, still striving for one peaceful day where you can play with your toys and daydream. Still pulling all the strings.
Every last one of us is just looking to have those same feelings back, of having all the time in the world to play and run around and feel like everything is fresh and amazing.
But now we’re just children who understand interest rates, alternators and city services. And many don’t even understand that much and just cling to whatever toys and distractions still make them feel even a little secure and safe.
Well, I don’t know what to say, I am not an expert, but I have seen how boys and kids mature, leave simply reasoning behind, take more complex and multi edges approach to problems, and more important, they become more empathic and realized what they experimented and think is not universal.
This is what I mean about growing, you could just name it as maturing.
Sometimes I can see adults where the spark of joy is gone and only an animated shell is there, (right Mr Zuckerberg?) so your main point is defeated :)
Except it’s not a subjective main point, it’s at the heart of many areas of psychology and our understanding of human development.
What you’re saying is that the layers of complexity around an inner-child self can be positive as well as negative, that’s not defeating my point, that’s showing different angles of it.
Sorry, it’s hard to tell on Lemmy, I am a bit antagonistic so I assume 90% of replies are people breathlessly trying to pick apart something I said, you’re good.
The idea that anyone “grows up” at all is a fallacy we’ve all bought into because of victorian-age ideas of culture and etiquette.
Nobody moves out of childhood. We just add more and more layers around it, increasing the complexity of childhood. You have the same brain you’ve always had buried in there, it just has continued to expand and branch out, but at the core, your “inner child” is still the one feeling all the feelings, still reacting the same way to new things, still striving for one peaceful day where you can play with your toys and daydream. Still pulling all the strings.
Every last one of us is just looking to have those same feelings back, of having all the time in the world to play and run around and feel like everything is fresh and amazing.
But now we’re just children who understand interest rates, alternators and city services. And many don’t even understand that much and just cling to whatever toys and distractions still make them feel even a little secure and safe.
A sad, but factual reality.
Well, I don’t know what to say, I am not an expert, but I have seen how boys and kids mature, leave simply reasoning behind, take more complex and multi edges approach to problems, and more important, they become more empathic and realized what they experimented and think is not universal.
This is what I mean about growing, you could just name it as maturing.
Sometimes I can see adults where the spark of joy is gone and only an animated shell is there, (right Mr Zuckerberg?) so your main point is defeated :)
Except it’s not a subjective main point, it’s at the heart of many areas of psychology and our understanding of human development.
What you’re saying is that the layers of complexity around an inner-child self can be positive as well as negative, that’s not defeating my point, that’s showing different angles of it.
I intended to make a joke about the empty shell but I see I was too subtle :)
Sorry, it’s hard to tell on Lemmy, I am a bit antagonistic so I assume 90% of replies are people breathlessly trying to pick apart something I said, you’re good.