• kerrigan778@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        I’m still really new to it but it can be painful to get right but it’s really not painful at all once you’re situated right and used to it. Your balls just go up the front of your pelvis kinda behind and to either side of the base of the shaft. And then everything else just gets tucked away. The weirdest part for me was leaning against the counter while doing dishes and realising that my balls were at the front of my pelvis instead of safely down below and it felt very weird (though somehow affirming) to be sensitive in a very different way. Also, I’m not there yet but HRT tends to shrinks your balls which helps.

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    A good skirt is like a good presentation. Long enough to cover the essentials, but short enough to hold the attention.

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    I’m never sure when these posts pop up if someone is just shitposting or if they confuse this with Facebook

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    I’m not going to disagree.

    But are there women that enjoy wearing it? Just because others enjoy looking at it isn’t a great reason to.

    Although if you’re on the fence between something like this and literally anything else, I will vote this.

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        See TIL.

        I think my ex wife really screwed with my understanding of the world. One of the things she convinced me of was that the “things I like to see on women are only worn to attract men”

        I’m learning a lot still it turns out.

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          She is partially right. Some women wear sexy clothes because they want attention and/or they feel pressured to, so they might wear them, even if they don’t like them.

          Some women like the way they look and feel in sexy clothes, so they just wear them for themselves. It’s not necessarily for male (or any other gender’s of interest) attention.

          In my experience, the former happens less. I’m not sure if it’s due to the crowd I hang out with changing or a gradual cultural shift.

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    Anyone else see this post and realise they still have ptsd from wearing similar to a club once and sorely regretting it because random drunk men spent the whole night trying to put their hands up your skirt?

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      I’m sorry you went through that. I don’t understand why it’s hard for men to not touch something they like.

      Is it because I’m (probably) autistic? Like, look these kind of outfits are simply awesome, but touching someone else without invitation just seems so incredibly… Wrong?

      Its something I’ve struggled with understanding my whole life. Just cause you are into a woman doesn’t mean you need to break boundaries to satisfy urges?

      I mean, shit, I remember from a really, really, really, young age: don’t touch others. Did this message not become a core concept? Or do I just pass out before alcohol has that much of an inhibiting effect on me?

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        Is it because I’m (probably) autistic?

        No, it’s a basic human decency thing. No man I know would (intentionally) touch without invitation (whether verbal or body language) and if someone does they deserve a smacking.

        The most common gray area is tight crowds where some assholes try to get away with groping disguised as “accidents” which is disgusting.

        Besides, alcohol and drugs are no excuse. If you can’t control yourself under the influence, don’t use them.

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        As a man I’ve never understood it either. Like, I’m hesitant to even touch a woman on the shoulder to get her attention or something like that.

        But, I’m ADHD and possibly a smidge on the spectrum, and I also realize that being a tall muscular dude is inherently threatening to women who don’t know me.