I think there’s a fine line between victim-blaming and identifying an object lesson. We all understand why people started using twitter, and people are creatures of habit. But this is an example of why people should stop using twitter. We’re not saying “this is your fault because you’re stupid if you’re still on twitter.” The message is “this should serve as a wake up call to anyone stuck in their habits.”
She’s almost an adult. Almost.
I understand your discomfort, but also she’s going to be making decisions for herself for the rest of her life. Offer supportive guidance. Ask clarifying questions without judgement.
Is she simply dating multiple people, or is she in multiple committed relationships? Do the guys know that she is seeing both, and do either of them expect her to pick one (or neither) eventually? Are they sexually active? As a parent, that last question can be extremely uncomfortable, but it’s a big clue to the nature of the situation.
I would advise that these relationships are dicey. It’s an unbalanced equation. What are they sharing? Her time? Her affection? Her body? Who decides how she is divided up? Does she have the power in the relationship or is she a thing they are passing around? Why are they OK with having half a relationship? Jealousy is a sneaky demon, and the things people say often don’t match the things people feel.
Polyamory can work in adult relationships if everyone is honest about what they want. Teens in relationships can sometimes struggle to advocate for themselves and might tolerate a lot more abuse before they speak up. If she feels like you are judging her for her choices, she may go even further to hide or suppress her feelings from you.
Make sure she understands that you are in her corner, and no topic is off limits. It might be equally uncomfortable for her to discuss it with you, but this is a situation worth monitoring closely. Her relationships should make her feel good about herself, and learning to be in a relationship is learning to balance your needs with the needs of another person. Is she being selfish or callous towards their feelings? Is she creating drama or seeking attention? Does the tension stoke her ego? Those would all be perfectly normal childish traits, and unhealthy attitudes to carry into adulthood.
This can be an important life lesson for her, but check in to make sure she’s learning something that will help her in the long run.
Conservativism, in all forms, is not a real ideology. It’s narcissism. A conservative will redefine conservative values based on their own identity.
So the “socially liberal, fiscally conservative” idiot is lying to themselves about who they are. They want fiscal policies that benefit themselves, and they don’t want to be labelled a bigot, but they are fine with bigots in office as long as they get the fiscal policies that benefit themselves.
Ask them what they mean by “fiscal conservative,” and they will probably vaguely gesture and say “lower taxes.” What they mean is “lower taxes for me.” Fiscal conservatives still want to spend government money on programs they like. They want boondoggles in their backyard, earmarks and pork barrel projects, and social safety nets as long as they are the recipient (Medicare, Social Security, Veteran benefits, etc.)
They want to frame it as responsible restraint. Pull funding from programs they don’t understand, like scientific research, or don’t like, like foreign aid (except of course if strong ties to their home country).
And when they say lower taxes, when pressed, they will describe how their property tax or income tax or capital gains tax or death tax is really bad “for the economy.” They want good schools and roads and infrastructure, but they want someone else to pay for it.
Calling themselves conservative gives them license to be as selfish as they want to be without having to admit that they don’t actually have any values.
And annoying because everyone, regardless of their political belief, thinks they are the second person.
But there’s been an effort to rewrite history to absolve the party leadership, many of whom are still in positions of power ten years later.
Bullshit. If the DNC had not been in the bag for Hillary in 2016, it would have been an entirely different primary. Her whole campaign was based on her “electability” and how dangerous it would be to put Bernie up against Trump. Between the superdelegates, the bribery, the caucus malfeasance, and the blatant lies, Hillary and the DNC did everything but literally stab the man in the actual back.
And that’s fine. The Democrats can pick their candidate however they want. The party leadership thought that Hillary was a better choice. But there’s been an effort to rewrite history to absolve the party leadership, many of whom are still in positions of power ten years later. The DNC fucked America, and they are as responsible as anyone for the disasters of the last, let’s say, 50 years.
Maybe Bernie would have lost to Trump. Maybe Hillary would have beaten Bernie in a fair primary. We can’t possibly know those things, because that’s not what happened. We do know that the primary was not a fair election, and we do know that Hillary shat the bed against Trump.
But if it had been Sanders in a national debate, making the arguments, giving impassioned speeches, drumming up supporters and energizing the left, then at the very least Trumpism would not have gone unchallenged. There would have been resistance. Instead, Hillary and the Democratic leadership let go of the rope and now we’re in the middle of a coup d’etat.
The great irony of attacking DEI initiatives, and then hiring a swath of incompetent and unqualified sycophants.
That works if you live and work in an environment where you control who is in your space. That’s not really an option for most people.
Bridge collapse
If you murder a murderer, you don’t reduce the total number of murderers. You have to murder more than one, but then you’re a serial killer, which is arguably worse. If you’re a serial killer who only kills serial killers, then you are starting to maximize the offset. But once you fuck up and get close to being caught, so your serial killer girlfriend blows up Doakes to keep your secret safe and you pin all your murders on him, you’ve gone too far.
Just don’t try to tell me it’s fucking “uncured.”
He’s featured in an episode of What If…? and he makes a cameo in the GotG3. It could make for a great holiday special.
Musk is getting $8 million each day from the US government to destroy the US government. He was given $44 billion to destroy Twitter. He’s not worried about money.
Are you using superglue to close cuts on your fingertips? Or are you trying to create a thick pad of glue to act as a protective layer? Do you already have a blister or cut? Or are you trying to prevent one?
To close a cut or cover a blister, superglue works in a pinch.
As padding to avoid blisters or cuts, it doesn’t really work. If you’re playing enough to cause a new blister, it just cracks and flakes off anyway. It might get you through a song if you’re desperate. Long term, you’re better off getting your fingers calliused and learning to play with different fingerings to take the pressure off an injury.
Pros have to go on stage and play. If you’re playing for yourself, for fun, you can take a few days off and let your fingertips heal.
Except you know that sexual exploitation has a different effect on women than men. Trump revels in his playboy reputation. Harris was accused of using sex to get ahead in politics. And you know that conservatives would believe that the video was real while they jerk off to it. Those dipshits still think Michelle Obama was a man.
Trump rapes women. He’s not entitled to the same level of respect as almost anyone. He is entitled to the same laws, on that we agree.
I enjoy an over hard egg sometimes. I don’t like gooey eggs, especially when the whites are still raw.
But a liquid yolk doesn’t necessarily mean raw. Cooked yolk should be thicker and has a great egg flavor. Hard yolks begin to taste bitter from the sulfur dissolving out. I recently learned I had been sleeping on soft boiled eggs.
The key is that yolks and whites cook at different temperatures. That’s why if you want perfect hard boiled eggs, you need to put them into boiling water (or sous vide if you’re bougie, which if you’re able to afford eggs…) for 8-10 minutes. That’s all it should take. Drop them into an ice bath and then enjoy.
First, you can always decline. It’s your time, and they aren’t paying you to work at a bowling alley, so you don’t have to be there.
Second, remote team meetups are a really good time to bond with your coworkers without a business agenda. I would recommend to anyone to try to make an appearance, even if you don’t stay out as late as everyone else. Plus, if everyone is hung over the next day at work, and you show up bright eyed and bushy tailed, you look like the smart one, although your coworkers might give you the side eye if you rub it in. Being compassionate goes a long way towards that bonding bit.
It’s also easier to communicate when you have personal relationships with your remote coworkers. When you write a curt slack message, or a status update email, people will read it in your voice. That might also work against you if you tend to be sarcastic or belligerent. If they don’t know you, they will read it in their own voice, and that can go sideways.
You don’t have to bowl. You don’t need to claim an old injury. Just say you don’t enjoy it (because that’s true).
All that said, it doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong. It doesn’t sound like your coworkers did anything wrong, either, and you were definitely “invited” anytime there is an announcement like that.
But the two examples you mentioned were targeted and permanent. Conservatives were going to target to harass workers and vandalize displays. Kid Rock fired a rifle at cases of Bud Light. Conservatives get violent when they protest, and the loss in sales isn’t replaced by the communities they are courting, because both brands immediately gave in to the terrorist demands.
Imagine how ineffective those protests would have been if, instead of violence, every conservative decided to stop drinking Bud Light or not shop at Target for one day. It’s unbelievably naive to think a one day boycott would accomplish anything.
That’s a pretty big loophole. I mean, imagine the same exact video with Kamala Harris and Nancy Pelosi. It takes a significantly different subtext when the subjects are women. But the subtext doesn’t really matter to the morality of the act.
Either involuntary AI generated pornography is wrong or it isn’t. I think it’s wrong. Do Trump and Musk deserve it? Sure, but it’s still wrong. Do I feel bad for them? No, because they deserve it. But it’s still not something I would do, or suggest anyone else do, and if the creator is prosecuted, I’m not going to defend them.
Go to the landlord and provide your account of what is happening. Document as much as you can, and stop trying to figure out why they are so upset. You’re not going to discover some hidden rational explanation, nor is that your responsibility. Protect yourself.