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Cake day: May 29th, 2024
  • sarah2653@lemmy.mlOPtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•is this how extroverts function?English
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    3 minutes ago

    If your team are chatty, you don’t need to go all out at the same level they are, but showing some willing and chatting at least sometimes will usually be enough to ensure harmony.

    my team is not made of people who simply want a hello. I don’t want to even say hello because if I do they’ll dump on me a monologue about their weekend, what they cooked or the reasons why they’re angry at another coworker.

    Knowing how to disengage without causing offence or annoyance is also an important skill.

    can you write an answer with tips to disengage without causing offence?

    I don’t think I can do this: while your post seems genuine I still find it ludicrous to have to placate needy people with attention this way. If I give them a bit of attention, they’ll want more and talk to me even more about their feelings at the workplace and distract me, something I don’t want.

  • sarah2653@lemmy.mlOPtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•is this how extroverts function?English
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    19 minutes ago

    Now you’re engaging; and yes, with hostility, but at least there’s communication and connection.

    it’s not being a jerk that’s improved your situation, it’s matching communication styles with your teammates.

    do you know those couples where they only communicate yelling? Why would a sane person want that? It still doesn’t make any sense. To you engaging with hostility is better than not engaging but I still find it appalling and prefer silence and quietness over yelling and drama. Yelling is extremely draining.

    OTOH your post makes me understand how some people think, hopefully a very reduced number of people, but if this is how some of my coworkers communicate and expect me to communicate, quitting is still the right choice. This cannot be healthy on the long term.

    Going on, I’ll match my new coworkers’ communication style and volume, but it can get really ludicrous if 2 “adults” at the office start yelling at each other (reason why I prefer to simply disappear)

    Still baffled, because yours is a whole novel idea to me: angry communication, even toxic, aggressive and unpleasant is better than no communication. Not saying that I agree with it, but I’ll think about it when dealing with some of my coworkers.

  • sarah2653@lemmy.mlOPtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•how do I grow a thicker skin and change my reactions to adversity?English
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    19 days ago

    it also guarantees that you’ll fail more often than not if you don’t get professionally trained help

    would you DM me to explain what kind of help you got and how it helped?

    If you’re talking about masking, isn’t it hard? like constantly being on edge pretending to be something you’re not, faking being what extroverted neurotypicals want you to be.

    At the workplace it would mean working 200%: doing my job and then constantly placating them. Who does that?