A cranky biologist who means well. My hobbies include long walks off short piers and anything science related.

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Cake day: June 25th, 2023

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  • You are correct in your history for sure.

    My comment was more focused on Lemmy and the reason for occasional outbreaks of nastiness. There is no algorithm in the sense you describe on Lemmy.

    I meant to convey that what we see on Lemmy is a property that emerges from human interaction through this medium.

    Our conversation may be an example of this. I made a comment that was short, but I thought it was unambiguous. Your reply was thoughtful and topical. But a short text requires you to fill in a lot of context. So you may create a slightly different picture than I intended.

    This is a deep cut sci-fi tangent, but it applies. Being pseudonymous and not having durable social reputation makes for different human behaviors.

    True Names by Vernor Vinge exceprt

    The full story is available with a search on the title and author.



  • Good sir,

    The yoga community is starved for healthy male presence (practice at most studios as a man and you will be a distinct minority).

    This community values the same gentle and nurturing approach you have realized that you embody. The fact that you are introspective, respectful and self aware just makes it an even better fit for what you describe.

    I cannot think of a place more accepting of individual differences and the persona you describe would be very welcome in those spaces.

    I wouldn’t recommend this to someone who was just a pussy-hound, it wouldn’t be welcomed.

    Yoga is a sex-positive and body-positive philosophy that doesn’t focus directly on sex usually, but instead helps one become a more rounded person, part of which is healthy relationships that may include physical intimacy.

    You seem to understand boundaries and respect. So this suggestion is more about how to build the kind of community where your unique gifts are valued.

    I have built many valuable relationships through my practice, most all non-romantic but all very supportive. From that foundation however, my more intimate relationships have improved immensely too.

    My two cents



  • Thanks!

    Their offering seems handy based on the dashboards and tools they provide that gather and automate many features that would otherwise be time consuming.

    Looking at how fast the resource demands scaled on my dinky test instance, a successful instance with a decent user base would quickly start costing a few hundred dollars a month. But their costs aren’t super high compared to unmanaged hosting.

    I am actually happy this service exists because it means they see a market here.

    If you are gung ho about running an instance, the automation and dashboards alone might save enough hassle to make it worth looking into further. Thanks for sharing that info.