Okay, so I’m a queer woman who is gonna do her best to level wit you. The problem is that you’re trying to come up with a sexuality based on exclusion, which inherently is going to be bigoted.

If you’re a straight man, you’re attracted to women. But if you were to say “only white women tho” then it’s clearly coming from a racialized place, even if you insist that you’re not racist, your limitations on who you are willing to consider a dateable woman says other wise. Conversely, if you were a white man who says “only asian women tho”, that’s again coming from a racialized and fetishized place. Even if it’s subconscious and unrealized bias that makes sense in your head, the context of fetishized communities is still racism.

So on the same note, it’s hypocritical to say “trans women are women” while categorically insisting that you would never date one. Does this include Trans women who have bottom surgery and pass as cis? If so, then visual attraction isn’t the only factor. If not, then clearly “super straight” has some caveats making the term meaningless.

Anytime you’re trying to define “everyone but X”, you’re inherently embracing a bigoted stance. Does this mean you’re required to date any and all women who ask you out? No, of course not. But to defining an entire category undateable speaks to bias. Lesbian women are attracted to women instead of attracted to “not men”, gay men are attracted to men instead of “not women”. To say categorical trans folk do not apply there is by definition trans exclusionary. On a case by case basis, a trans person can be rejected without bias, but categorically doesn’t just imply bias, but is such.

I mean. Okay? Maybe? But that’s not really the point?

I’m just trying to address how unrealistic you thought this comic was. But it is a accurate depiction of a regular experince for many women’s lives.

Honestly it seems like you’re just trying to “win” the discussion by correcting others. When women talk about the problems they face, it’s not helpful for you to go “That doesn’t happen”.

Mine? America. I even live in a very blue “progressive” area. But I have friends in the UK that have similar experinces. Frankly, why would that even matter? This sort of thing happens all over.

YES. Literally yes.

I’ve been approached by men who say I’m wearing too much makeup and that men don’t like that. That I should smile more if I want a boyfriend. That my clothes aren’t very flattering and it’s unattractive to him.

Like, for all your talk of “go outside” you don’t seem to know what life is like for women outside.

First off I’m sorry this is happening. It’s abuse and not at all okay.

Hut more to your point, this “friend” , isn’t a friend. It’s just someone you know. Anyone who makes excuses for your physical harm isn’t concerned about your well being. You need to find different people for your support system.

Racism used to be a problem until Lincoln and MLK fixed it.

Both constantly and never. I was born to teen parents, so as far back as I can remember, every other day, my Dad would constantly say “Whatever you do, don’t get her pregnant.” Even when I was far too young to understand what pregnant or sex was.

But the closest thing I got to “the talk” was when I was 17 and he randomly barges into the living, throws a pack of condoms at me, says “wrap your schlong” and then keeps walking to his bedroom.

Later that night I told him that A) I wasn’t having sex B) didn’t plan on it and C) that I wasn’t even sure what to do with a condom or how throwing one at me was helpful. He shrugged “Sorry I don’t have ace parenting skills or whatever” and that was the end of it.

I thought I learned how to have sex by watching porn, but… obviously that wasn’t true so I had to be taught everything by partners. Including extremely basic things like what semen, periods or orgasms were.

Thanks Dad…

don’t believe that is the case at .08… that’s a little buzz.

And a little buzz is too much to drive with? Respectfully, that is just rearranging titanic deck chairs. Buzzed driving should be illegal too.

As a society, we have to draw the line somewhere. Personally I am happy the line for driving 2 tons of steel is BEFORE someone feels the affect of alcohol. Driving is dangerous enough as is, buzzed still slows reaction times.

It was easier to be a big fish in the pre-internet music pond. I would never said the Beatles are bad, they aren’t. But aside from understanding the historical significance, I would never ever put the Beatles on regularly.

Just as I don’t watch B&W films every night. Charlie Chaplin was great, for the time, just simpler than what I actually actually enjoy.

While we don’t make a habit of it, both of us walk in front of the other when getting out of the shower or getting dressed for the day. It’s just a part of life, nothing sexual about it. We’ve also given various small compliments about each other, generally after one of us gets a tattoo, but we have both discussed than anything about each other genitals is just weird and unwanted. We really are the greatest for each other. 😂

Having said that, she asked me to post a picture of her breasts a lil while ago, in my post history, but that’s the most sexual thing either of us have suggested. And it was just taking a few photos than a movie, not like past GFs that wanted to turn that in to sex.

Now I’m curious myself, is nudity a hurdle for you? Fully valid and no judgement, just wondering. :)

As someone with diagnosed anexity. Constant repetive intrusive thoughts and obsessive reliving of past trauma, I can’t help but be a little jealous.

Apologies. I’m sure you have your own complementary problems to over come. I just can’t help and admire the how green your grass looks

I understand this well. Spent a few decades in dysfunctional relationships rooted in my lack of sexual desire. Happily married to another ace woman today, where sex is only ever suggested as part of joke and we’ve never even came close. She is liberating, freeing, incredible and safe.

Yet I still hold a lot of guilt from previous partners who spent time thinking something was wrong with them or I was cheating because I always made “not tonight” excuses for several years straight. It wasn’t fair to either of us, but my lack of introspection, self-honesty and fear of being alone kept us years of strife.

Things are wonderful now, no complaints but GAWD a lot of heart ache could’ve been avoided if I had a *normal" sex drive.

First step of playing any and every computer game is immediately going to resolution.

Well, I got it right here in the name.

It’s 2025 and I’m reading Slaughterhouse Five again. So it goes.

Will Cory Booker be giving multiple 25 hour speeches per day for multiple years? Because I just don’t see Dems doing much more than coasting off this for the next four years.

The only actionable thing that was accomplished was a black senator took the record for longest speech from a segregationist arguing against people like Booker being able to safely vote. Which for that alone he should be congrulated and celebrated.

The AI nonsense, the flawed ranking and the pages of sponsored links. Honestly, Google is just straight up useless.

It’s okay. I gotcha so you don’t got to ssy it

Spicehoarder told y’all so!

Well at least you had one good experience! If they are/were a decent restaurant then sure, makes sense. But to me it seemed like a spectacl restaurant akin to Rainforest Cafe, just something to look at with mediocre food.

But different strokes for different folks. Whatevs. ♥️

When I was 12ish I was taken there by my father to celebrate an extremely awkward family friends 18th birthday. I’ll never understand the appeal of lofi strip clubs, or well, strip clubs at all really?

Maybe I am just too ace for it, but the whole thing just feels uncomfortable and weird at best. Exploitative and depressing at worst.