The lie made into the rule of the world - Ezekiel 23:20

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  • I’d prefer to make the bullied feel welcomed than the oppressor with what limited time and resources I have

    Nobody is solely the bully or bullied. That’s what seperates empathy from parochial empathy: understanding not only people who are like, but also those who are unlike.

    It truely is the only way to heal.

    your link says that people who are ostracized by others tend to continue that cycle not that people who ostracized others were themselves victims of ostracization

    You might misunderstand the meaning of the word cycle?


  • Now being massively rude and dehumanizing to others is an active choice one makes, that’s not a outgroup that one is in through any choice but their own.

    Unfortunately, this perspective misses a crucial truth. Most abusers have a history of being abused themselves (1). They are trapped in a relentless cycle of anger, rejection, and pain, struggling to escape a reality where kindness feels foreign and unrecognizable. Breaking this cycle is profoundly challenging, as it demands consistent empathy and kindness from others—qualities they initially perceive as weaknesses. This is the very lesson they absorbed in their formative years.

    They see their worldview validated as angry mobs of self-proclaimed “good guys” cause and celebrate intentional agitation, hurt, and violence.

    If those are “good guys”, then there’s no good in the world, only power, winners and losers - a logical conclusion, were the premise valid, isn’t it?

    You’re arguing that the rest of the party should feel bad for the asshole that was kicked out.

    Exactly! Vilify behaviour instead of people. Try to protect your friend that’s being bullied by supporting his behaviour. Recognize that everyone can be hurt or wronged, as well as can hurt and do wrong.

    In other words: be empathic.