

The antivirus: Used to be good, decent free (in price) tool if you’re in a situation where you need one. Otherwise, Windows Defender is good enough for your needs. (And just don’t install goofy ahh apps on Android, you also don’t need one there).
The VPN: Same as any other VPN company. Chances are you don’t need one, and all of them are based fully on trust. “Least bad” VPN award goes to Mullvad.
NordVPN (and their entire service stack) is not trustworthy at all.
I have used Waydroid, mainly with FOSS apps, and although it has some rough edges, it does often work for just having one or two Android apps functionality.
Linux on mobile as a whole isn’t daily driver ready yet in my opinion. I’ve only tried pmOS on a OP6, but that seems to be a leading project on a well-supported phone (compared to the rest).