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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • I feel like there’s probably about 50 different directions that one could take that idea, and the story very clearly paints that act as a Bad Thing™ to have done.

    But to play devil’s advocate (just because I have also been missing this type of discussion), one could argue that experiencing love would compromise Miquella’s plans for his planned age of compassion. An age of compassion would be one which treats everyone equally, to try to universally end worldly suffering.

    Love, on the other hand, is what allows one to play favorites, and is also something that cannot really be controlled. Having a stronger attachment towards some people over others because of love would result in discontent, and sabotage the type of egalitarian compassion Miquella wanted to create.

    Marika’s reign became rocky because there were conflicts between those she favored and those she shunned. She absolutely played favorites, and did not love everyone equally. Her solution to break the cycle of suffering was to simply remove death from the world entirely, but as we saw, that just ended up making its own whole host of problems.

    So I think Miquella was trying to avoid making that same mistake of favoritism we saw under Marika, but ended up making another mistake which could have been just as potentially consequential as his mother’s decision to shatter the rune of death. A dispassionate “compassion” wouldn’t really be compassion at all.


  • Generally no, but it depends on how you handle the interaction.

    This whole situation seems a bit odd and I can’t help but feel like we’re not really getting the full picture. But at a surface level, if someone takes what is really just a misunderstanding or miscommunication and turns that into a character assassination against you without giving you the chance to explain yourself, that is not something you should feel obligated to just accept.

    But it depends a lot of how you handle it. If you just take the opportunity to fire back and make this a “them” problem, knowing they have some mental disability that could have caused them to misread the situation, that would be ableist.

    What you could do is simply respond along the lines of “I can understand why you’d feel this way if what you believe is true, but I think I didn’t explain myself clearly, and that’s on me.”




  • This article has real “It’s just a banana, what could it cost, $10?” energy.

    Despite all of the commentary about slavery and the abolitionist movement, saying “just quit your job and be an activist” sounds like they’ve never read Marx and have no idea about the modern-day trend of wage slavery.

    People don’t want to work pointless jobs. They’re tethered to them, because the alternative is poverty and homelessness in an era where social safety nets are being eroded faster than ever before. The article acknowledges this (barely) by comparing people in this situation to “American Dream” types (i.e. a limited subset of mainly white people) with a house and family and lawn (complete with robot mower) and labradoodle, as if that is the only excusable albatross hung around the worker’s neck, while everyone else has nothing to lose.

    They fail to acknowledge that the majority of workers are living paycheck to paycheck, precariously standing one major unplanned expense away from disaster. The only people who can quit their “pointless” jobs in the name of “moral ambition” are those who are lucky enough to not need them in the first place.





  • Being gay or bi has nothing to do with this, so why bother mentioning the fact?

    I wouldn’t go that far, I think it’s a very relevant detail for OP’s situation.

    Internalized homophobia is a real and unfortunate phenomenon for people who grew up in restrictive environments, and it can result in a lot of self-hatred and mental distress, including diagnosable disorders.

    And the worst part about it is the shame some people feel about the whole thing might have them feeling that talking to a doctor or therapist is simply not an option, as they are not prepared to be “out” to others, even under the protection of medical confidentiality. The very idea of being out can be internalized as a failure, especially if it would burn bridges with bigoted family members (which is easy to say from the outside looking in that bigots aren’t worth your time anyways, but not so easy when that is your entire support network and every happy memory you had since childhood).

    It’s definitely not simple, at any rate.




  • There’s always hope. The feeling you are experiencing is what the people who are causing all of that want you to feel.

    Now if everything seems bleak and hopeless all the time, that’s also a strong indicator of depression, and may also be worth talking to a professional about. Or if not a professional, at least people in your life whose perspectives matter more than random internet strangers like me.


  • When I was younger, you got $20 from a friend if you were lucky, and that was fine by us because no one wants friendship to feel like an obligation. Today with inflation that might be more like $50, but still not a big thing.

    $100 is typically what family would give, I wouldn’t go that high because it honestly may be seen as stepping on the toes of family members if they don’t give that much.

    Honestly just a card is fine.




  • The only thing I did recently was buy a replacement device for one I had that was crapping the bed and would need to be purchased soon anyways, but decided to buy something now before it completely died just in case prices sharply rose in the next few months.

    Other than that, nothing really. I am putting away as much money as I can in savings, avoiding large purchases/being generally frugal, and taking good care of my things so they last as long as possible. Life’s not perfect, but I’m making as soft a cushion as possible in case things do get worse.

    Not to say the future is set in stone or that we shouldn’t be worried, but even the Great Depression only lasted about a decade, and it’s still crazy to me just how quickly the last one went by. I have a place to live, enough money put away that I could probably last it out that long one way or another if I was laid off tomorrow, and a generally supportive community around me where people look out for one another.

    But I’m lucky, I know not everyone else can say the same, so I hope you’re all doing alright out there.