Can confirm. Boring is the way. Accounting, economics, etc.

For me, I worked my ass off to be a person that works on movies and TV etc. Got lucky, held some dream positions, and even got to make my own thing.

However, if I could do it all again, I’d stay in the boring office job I had and share twice as much time with my family and friends.

Instead, I worked 80 hour weeks, made some decent money in respected roles, and then Covid took everyone and everything close to me. Money and respect mean nothing if you can’t share it with those you love.

Boring is the way. Don’t worry about liking your job in 10-20 years, worry about liking your life.

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Literally proving my point how effective you are at distancing your allies.

I don’t spend time on X, but X does exist, which means it’s possible to look at it without immediately becoming a radicalized MAGA asshole.

You are willing to dismiss my point through an assumption I spend a lot of time on X, so maybe you should care about sounding exactly like all the assholes that do.

Which is the point I’m making. You sound and act just like them. Dismissing conflicting opinions through misplaced assumptions now included.

So is arguing semantics about where and how the term “lib” is being used a better way to gain allies?

Please.

If you ever do go to X, you’d see MAGA uses “lib” the same way the leftists here do. So sure, Lemmy residents may not be regurgitating MAGA culture, but they sure as shit sound like it by complaining about liberals in the same exact way using the same exact terms.

If you’re looking for allies, maybe don’t use the same language of your enemies to recruit them.

Your argument boils down to “but people on lemmy use the word “lib” in a good way.” It’s still the same thought terminating and dehumanizing word my dude, and just because you’re admittedly in the dark to how it’s being used on Twitter doesn’t mean it can be used better by others in a different community.

If we rewind 80 years of history, you’d be defending the right to use the word “jew” to describe those with tight business purses despite it also being used by Hitler for other reasons. You would also defend this position by admitting to not ever reading what’s happening in Germany.

Great take.

Would love to hear your ideas on marketing solidarity to liberal allies by using the term “lib” to win them over.

80 years ago it would be making signs that say “Hey Jews - let’s work together to stop Hitler!”

Which, to the point I’m making, sounds like bullshit rather than a rally cry.

Am American, and “lib” is used every day by MAGA on social media. Just go to X and scroll for a whole couple seconds to see overwhelming proof it’s a MAGA culture war talking point.

I’m not against shitting on liberals either, but there’s clearly a much bigger world wide problem of private equity Fascism that needs solved, and liberals have already been fighting that enemy (albeit not winning that fight). This makes them your friend whether you like it or not.

But solidarity isn’t going to happen if you’re too busy complaining about liberal bullshit to fight with them when needed instead.

Nazis are now in the White House and a Fox News host commands the biggest army in the world.

And that wasn’t even the first 90 days of this dumpster fire.

So I’d rather spend the little time we have left before polical arrests happen to work together than spend time bitching about the history of our possible allies.

I voted for Biden, and was deeply critical of his team. But without question he would be a better President now than Trump is.

Imo words critical of liberals in the US are wasted. Trump will be far more critical of them in the long run, so I’d rather spend my time making allies instead of grandstanding while they’re being publicly admonished.

The next step is them getting arrested, so the time for making allies isn’t long.

History has a liberal bias if you care to read instead of listen to TV all day.

Here’s some advice from someone with a high nat charisma role on birth:

Gaining friends, lovers, or even acquaintances isn’t a goal to be worked towards - rather - the best kinds of these relationships are byproducts of mutual interest and experiences.

If your efforts are only going towards showing up at social events to participate in small talk, then no wonder it feels like you’re coming home from work. Because that’s the same behavior expected at work.

This “social script” we’re expected to follow at work is to maintain social standing to get work done, rather than grow and deepen connections.

Basically, work socialization and personal socialization should be approached differently, and taking the work approach to your private life will likely lead to the same kind of relationships you’re building at work: simple and makes your work easier. (Rather than relationships that are deep, and make your life more colorful.)

Here’s something to try the next time you find a group you want to be a part of:

• 1st: Don’t talk about work itself. Talk about the actions you take at work. Don’t say, “I work in sales” say “I sell shit to those that don’t need it.”

Talk about the specific actions you take, in work or anywhere else, and personalize them.

The fundamentals of any relationship are built on the aligned behaviors of individuals. The easiest way to determine if the way you behave is similar to others is to talk about how you act. And if you can add in your own opinion about those actions, even better. These small things communicate who you are much better than anything else. Actions speak louder than words, so try your best to speak about yourself as the actions you take - use verbs to describe yourself, not nouns.

• 2nd: Don’t talk about yourself unless asked. Instead, engage with others to learn about them. Specially, what actions they like.

If you know someone is interested in something like bikes. Don’t ask what bikes they like, ask if they “like the thrill of downhill mountain biking,” or “prefer a chill bike ride through the park.”

Do they watch movies? Don’t ask “did you like that Movie?” Rather, ask “did you like pacing of that Movie?”

Verbs should also be at the heart of your inquiries into others, as they describe the actions others have that might align with yours.

That is - good relationships are built on mutual action, not mutual interest.

So don’t ask, “How was work?” ask “What projects are you working on?” Then follow that inquiry up with more specifics on their behaviour through that project - “How hard was the project to complete? Who got in your way?”

Basically, socialize as if the people you want to hang around are all the main characters within their own show. They have adventures, villians, love interests, etc - and just spending time learning what those are, will make them feel closer to you. Once you know enough about them, you can begin asking them about the events in their own show. That is, in time, your small talk will grow from, “how was work?” to “did you get your evil manager fired over their bullshit harrasment?”

And that’s the difference between a friend, and someone you know at work.

Eventually, when you learn about these people more, you’ll discover the behaviour they have that aligns with yours. And eventually, you’ll begin doing stuff together with them.

They like casual bike rides? Cool, give it a shot with them! They like seeing matinees on Sunday? Cool join em!

The more you show an interest in how people behave, the more likely it is they will want to include you as part of that behaviour.

• 3rd. Encourage others. Be their hype man.

You know how they act? Great. Encourage it. Sometimes, even encourage it with you included.

They love bike riding? Great. Tell them about the park near your house they should try. Heck. You can even join em.

People often have goals tied to their favorite behaviours. If you know what those goals are, you can encourage them to pursue them. When they succeed, you will now be a part of it they’ll remember.

In time, you keep up the above, you’ll be surrounded by people you know well, and whom you’ve shared a lot of activities with.

And they will without question enjoy you in their lives for it.

AI to run companies in sustainably profitable ways that benefits their workers instead of rich greedy sociopaths.

Our educations system has been in decline for the last 20 years. Instead foreign money has combine with private interests to blast us with complete made up bullshit propaganda 24/7. Almost all of our major news sources are now owned or operated by MAGA donors, who care more about money than public well being. Basically, half this country is now too stupid to determine if the information they’re viewing is corporate propaganda, or foreign government propaganda. Both are exploitative, and both want Americans sick because it’s profitable to them. So despite having a president that publicly threw out our pandemic response killing more Americans than in all the wars we’ve ever faught in combined - 4 years later we reelected him. That’s how bad the propaganda is here. Combined with poor education, we can no longer agree on how basic cause and effect works.

TL:DR - We’re now too stupid and hopped up on propaganda to understand how preventing diseases works.

I’m surprised I had to scroll this far to see Jinjer! Seriously impressive vocals, and absolutley one of my favorite female metal vocalists.

From Arizona / Mexico:

Birria, especially Birria Ramen. It’s slow cooked meat in a broth of spices and a bit of onion and Chiles. It’s fall apart tender, and usually served with melted cheese (Queso Birria). But my favorite version is served on top of Tapatio Ramen. So it’s fork tender beef with spicy noodles.

Really great on a cold day.

Funny thing is, I’m from the East Coast of the US, so actually have a bunch of favorites from there that are really worth giving a try too.

Especially a REAL Cheesesteak.

Shaved Ribeye cut thin and grilled on a hot surface for a char. Grilled and charred onions and green peppers. Add it to an Italian soft roll that’s warmed, NOT toasted. Melt on top of it either Cheez Wiz (an Aerosolized Cheese snack that’s awful by itself) or American cheese. Mix it all together on the bun along with a few slices of Italian peperonchinis and a couple dashes of celery salt.

Incredibly unhealthy, but quite an experience if you ever get to try one (or make one yourself! I’m literally eating one I made for dinner right now haha 😂)