For a long time I was confused by two seemingly separate pieces of information.
The majority of people I seem to interact with seem to act like communications are effortless. “Just pick up the phone”. “It’s just an email”.
Most communications I get are terrible. Like, the number of times I need to restrain myself from typing “as I mentioned in the email below” is insane, or how often I send an email with a bulleted list of issues that need to be addressed and the response only addresses a fraction of them while the rest are ignores.
Then I realized that most people are stupid, casual, and oblivious. They put very little effort into communications, so while they seem so easy and effortless they are harming the quality of that communication.
how often I send an email with a bulleted list of issues that need to be addressed and the response only addresses a fraction of them while the rest are ignores.
I typically will reply with just the bulleted points they didn’t address and then keep sending it with less and less bullets until either they answer all points or stop replying… after the third or fourth reminder email. I make sure the previous emails are in the string and never change the title.
For a long time I was confused by two seemingly separate pieces of information.
The majority of people I seem to interact with seem to act like communications are effortless. “Just pick up the phone”. “It’s just an email”.
Most communications I get are terrible. Like, the number of times I need to restrain myself from typing “as I mentioned in the email below” is insane, or how often I send an email with a bulleted list of issues that need to be addressed and the response only addresses a fraction of them while the rest are ignores.
Then I realized that most people are stupid, casual, and oblivious. They put very little effort into communications, so while they seem so easy and effortless they are harming the quality of that communication.
To your second point:
I typically will reply with just the bulleted points they didn’t address and then keep sending it with less and less bullets until either they answer all points or stop replying… after the third or fourth reminder email. I make sure the previous emails are in the string and never change the title.
One of the most common problems with communication is that many people believe it is easy. There is a reason professional communication courses exist
Average neurodivergent-neurotypical interaction:
I always say: if it’s worth doing a half assed job, it’s worth stressing out about for days
This applies to so many facets of life. It is only hard if you care. Like parenting.
this is a good point. people don’t think about it, so it doesn’t bother them